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Core Interview Dating Questions


This guide is designed to help you explore a person’s personality with the intention of building a romantic relationship. The questions will help you to gain some insight into what makes them unique, as well as serve as some engaging ice breakers!

To start, here are some general questions to ask:

  • What would be your ideal first date?
  • What do you value most about yourself?
  • What does ‘trust’ mean to you?
  • What is a ‘deal-breaker’ for you in any relationship?
  • How do you like to get to know someone?
  • Would you describe yourself as more of an introvert or an extrovert?
  • Are you a planner, or do you like to go with the flow?
  • What’s the funniest thing that has ever happened to you?
  • How would your best friend/mom/dad/sibling describe you?
  • What’s your worst feature? Be honest!



So, you have matched to an Adventurous type! Here are a few things to know. The adventurer is one who has high-energy and high ambition whether it’s work or play. You’ll be amazed at the level of enthusiasm this person has for each activity but, be prepared, it’s not long before the next big plan is made! Fasten your seatbelt because this person is always on the go and always up for a new and often daring challenge. If this sounds appealing, you are on the right track to meet especially if you share a quest for physical challenges in the natural world. The Adventurous type needs alone time but thrives when sharing activities, goals and plans with someone special. Ready to leap? Check this adventurer out!

Question areas for Adventurous types

  • When dating, how do you feel when your date just wants to go for a meal or take in a picture?
  • When you are not in high-gear, how do you spend your down time?
  • What is your ultimate fantasy adventure?
  • How do you respond when someone frustrates your plans?
  • What sort of things make the hairs on the back of your neck stand on end?
  • Tell me about something you have done that was way outside your comfort zone.



Wow - you have matched to a Charismatic type! Get ready for a lot of fun! Charismatics can be described as the life of the party, people magnets and super friendly extroverts. Your match is high-energy, has a constant finger on the social pulse and is up for everything. There is never a dull moment with this Charismatic one. But in spite of being sociable and interactive, your match thrives when that special someone is sharing the good time. Best of all, no one can make you feel more special than a Charismatic type. Their feelings are big and when you are the focus, there is nothing better. Ready, Set, GO!

Question areas for Charismatic types

  • How do you feel when you walk into a room full of people you’ve never met before?
  • Tell me about the most boring thing that has even happened to you!
  • What sort of situations really get your motor running?
  • What do you like to do when you’re not with other people?
  • At a dull gathering, what would you be tempted to do to get things going?
  • Tell me about a time when you told a joke that you knew was pretty off color.



So, you have matched to a Mellow type! You must appreciate an easy-going, creative person because that is at the heart of this type. Mellows prefer a slow pace and a casual approach to just about everything. Because they are rarely in a hurry, Mellow types have a gift when it comes to focusing on whomever or whatever is right in front of them, which can be refreshing in a world of distractions. Mellow types prefer quiet outings and small groups over big parties. They also are happy to create a special dinner at home for their special person. If you live in the fast lane, the Mellow type may not be for you. But if sincerity, a gentle touch and a calm demeanor appeal to you, your Mellow match may be just what you’ve been looking for.

Question areas for Mellow types

  • What’s the most chilled out music you can think of?
  • If you could go anywhere on vacation, where would it be?
  • How do you feel when people hussle you to do stuff?
  • What sort of social events do you prefer?
  • Tell me about a time when you’ve ‘bent the rules’ - because the rules just didn’t make sense.
  • What would make you leap out of bed in the morning, full of energy?



So, you have matched with a Rational type! You must be ready to sharpen your mind and challenge your thinking! Rationals are intrigued by ideas, lifelong learners and excellent thinkers. If you like a heady debate or a deep and intellectual conversation, this person may be just right for you! Rationals prefer small get-togethers full of interesting discussions as well as cultural events. Most importantly, the Rational type thrives when sharing life with a like-minded partner. While thoughts come first, emotions are there for that special someone. With a Rational partner, “the world is your oyster!”

Question areas for Rational Types

  • What’s the most persuasive (non-spiritual) book you’ve ever read?
  • What’s the first thing you would do with someone who was upset?
  • Tell me about a time when you had to make a snap decision, with no time to think.
  • Are you often puzzled by how often people get emotional about stuff? Give me a ‘for instance’.
  • If you had to explain something to me that I knew nothing about, how would you do it?
  • How do you know if someone is on the same wavelength as you are?



So, you have matched with a Reliable type! Keeping ducks in a row is the Reliable’s signature. Organized, dependable and keeping all of the details straight is what you’ll find with this person. If you have been looking for someone who follows the rules and keeps to the schedule, shop no more! The Reliable type likes socializing and traveling as long as there is some advanced planning. Like an itinerary? You are with a master Want to feel safe and secure, with all the angles covered? Look no further! Although, nothing is better for the Reliable than to make plans with someone special. Ready to plan a date? GO!

Questions areas for Reliable types

  • What’s the most satisfying event/activity/happening you’ve ever organised?
  • How do you decide on the best place for a holiday?
  • What sort of situations make you feel like you’re a bit ‘out of control’?
  • Do you think it’s important to do things just right? Tell me about it.
  • How do you feel when someone doesn’t turn up to an arranged meeting on time?
  • If I could see your list of ‘Things to do’, what would be on it?



So, you matched to a Social Type! You must be looking for someone that will fit in and be comfortable anywhere with just about anyone! This is your no-drama, keep things light type. The Social person is up for just about any plan from tailgating to dinner parties. Being around people is what makes this person’s world go round. This person is up on the latest fads, the latest movies and can often be an expert on popular culture! But nothing is more fun and more meaningful than having that special person to share the events of life with. Relationships come naturally for the Social because interacting and friendliness are second nature. Ready to join in on the social fun? Here’s your match!

Question areas for Social types

  • What do you like most about having lots of social activities?
  • How do you feel when you don’t have any plans for going out?
  • How would you get someone shy to open up?
  • What is your favorite ‘go-to’ on Social Media?
  • How do you deal with uncomfortable feeling social situations?
  • Tell me about a time when you just blurted something out, and wished you hadn’t!



So, you have matched with a Thoughtful type! Be prepared for someone who really wants to know about you, and will give you 100% of their attention. Thoughtfuls really are natural listeners and will go to the ends of the earth to make someone feel understood. They want to find out what makes a person tick, so after a while are likely to know you better than you know yourself! If you’re after someone you can trust, who will trust you back, this may be the type for you. Do you want to enjoy one-to-one time with a person who puts you at the center of things, who quickly gets on your wavelength, with no hassle and no fuss, then look no further!

Question areas for Thoughtful types

  • What do you do when you need to take care of yourself?
  • What’s the hardest thing about being really ‘in tune’ with other people?
  • How do you feel after a really heated argument?
  • When it comes to pleasing people, what gives you the biggest kick?
  • If you have to say ‘No’ to someone, how do you do it?
  • Tell me about a time when you found yourself wondering about someone’s motives.


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